Are you feeling isolated and alone? Is your social life suffering?
Numerous friends/colleagues asked me to offer up my perspective on this.
I can tell you right up front, this will need to be two separate blog posts, maybe more. :)
Yes, I could suggest different types of groups and organizations to join, etc., but if you aren't presenting yourself in the most positive manner, all the outings in the world won't matter now, will they?
So, let's talk about “presence.” How DO YOU come across to others? What is the first impression or vibe that you give off? What is your “carriage” like? I remember being at a business networking happy hour years ago. I was chatting it up with a delightful young man who stated: “The most attractive thing about a woman is her carriage.” Hmmmm, (This could apply to all genders by the way). I had never heard the term used in that manner before. I asked him to explain. In summary: It's not all about your expensive outfit, or handbag, or shoes (although the outfit does matter). What matters most is how you carry yourself, that “first impression.”
It's about your “presence,” “your energy.”
Do you walk into a room with a smile and a confident stride, radiating positive energy out into the world? If so, I guarantee that positive people will be drawn to you.
Challenge: The next time you're out and about, you might consider “people watching.” Who would YOU be drawn to in a crowd, and why? Make note of those commonalities and watch for my post next week with concrete ideas on how to specifically get out and meet people, and develop a social life and build new relationships again. For those of you brave enough to actually try this challenge, I'd love to hear back from you.
Until next time,
Be grateful, Be well.