There's almost nothing worse than feeling like you have no control over a particularly stressful life event or situation. In this post I will cover specific things you can do that will bring you relief. Guaranteed.
First, let's note that feeling the need to be in control is from our ego and from a space of fear, which leads to dis-empowerment. One sure way to find relief is to shift our focus – from “external” to “internal.”
Remember, the more we try to change our external circumstances, the more powerless we become. Let me repeat.......the more we try to change our external circumstances, the more powerless we become!
The only reason we feel out of control is because we have a certain expectation and things aren't lining up the way we “think” they should.
This is true in every single situation. It's a tough pill to swallow I know, but remember, the only thing over which we have complete control is our “thinking” and how we choose to manage our emotions.
When we choose to “let go” of our expectations and “trust” the process, we immediately feel a sense of relief, knowing that life is going to unfold the way it's meant to unfold anyway, whether we like it or not. The sooner we “get out of the way” the better.
When we let go of wanting to control, something magical happens deep inside of us. We shift from a space of fear into a space of love. Fear and love cannot co-exist.
Once we shift from what's going on (wrong) outside of us (fear) to how we feel internally (love) we move from fight or flight mode to that creative space where all of our answers live. This is truly magical and gets us into our zone of genius, and who doesn't want that?